Cunnilingus, the act of orally pleasing a woman, can be a wonderful and intimate experience for both partners. However, it can be a nerve-wracking experience, especially if they are not quite sure how to do it right. The good news is that cunnilingus is a skill that can be learned, with the right tips, positions, and techniques, it can be a truly enjoyable and fulfilling experience for everyone involved.
Find the right position
One of the key factors in giving great cunnilingus is getting into the right position. Experimenting with different positions can help you find what works best for you and your partner.
One classic position is the 69, where both partners are positioned to perform oral sex on each other simultaneously. This can be an option for couples who like to give and receive pleasure at the same time. However, it can also be a bit awkward to maintain for long, so it may not be the best option for everyone.
Another popular position is the “lioness”, where the woman lies on her back with her legs spread open while the giver kneels between her legs or throw them over their shoulder.
This position is great because it offers the giver full access to the vulva and allows them to use their hands to stimulate other areas, such as the clitoris or labia. If the receiver lies back on a bed or couch and scoots to the edge the giver can be on their knees on the floor.
The “butterfly” position is another option, where the woman lies on her back with a pillow under her hips and her legs spread open. The giver kneels between her legs, giving them an excellent view of the vulva while they pleasure their partner with their mouth.
Experimenting with different positions can help you find what works best for you and your partner, so don't be afraid to try new things.
Techniques to try
Once you’ve found the right position, it’s time to experiment with different techniques. There is no one right way to give cunnilingus, and every woman is different, so pay attention to your partner’s reactions and adjust accordingly.
One technique that many women find pleasurable is the use of tongue circles. Start by gently kissing and licking the vulva, and then use your tongue to make slow, circular motions around the clitoris. Pay attention to your partner’s reactions and adjust the speed and pressure as needed.
Another technique to try is alternating between fast and slow movements with your tongue. Start by giving your partner fast, intense stimulation with your tongue, then slow down to a more gentle pace. This can create a rollercoaster of pleasure and keep your partner on their toes.
Don’t forget about the rest of the vulva. While the clitoris is often the main focus of the cunnilingus, it’s important to pay attention to the rest of the vulva as well. Licking and kissing the labia, for example, can add extra stimulation and make the experience even more enjoyable.
Using sex toys while performing cunnilingus can enhance the experience for both partners. Toys can provide extra stimulation to the clitoris and vulva, they can also add a new level of excitement to the act.
Incorporating a vibrator during cunnilingus can provide additional stimulation to the clitoris, or using a dildo can give stimulation to the vagina.
Before using any sex toy, read the instructions and use a lubricant to reduce friction. Clean the toys after each use to maintain hygiene and prevent the spread of any infections.
The importance of communication
Communication is key when it comes to cunnilingus. It’s important to talk to your partner about what they like and what they don’t like and to be open to feedback during the experience.
If you’re not sure what your partner likes, ask them. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and get clarification. You can also try incorporating different techniques and positions into your oral sex.
